A 50-something French dude that’s old enough to think blogs are still cool, if not cooler than ever. I also like to write and to sketch.

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  • What will people do the day they realize fascists and their sympathizers are breathing the exact same air they themselves breath? Boycott breathing?

    I’m getting tired being shown that kind of FUD shit posts about whatever some CEO has or has not done regarding their personal political views and preferences.

    Sure, that’s obviously a me issue (and, yeah, quite obviously too, I must be one of those assholes too), but since it seems rather difficult to filter out that kind of content from Lemmy/piefed without actually risking removing most other content at the same time, I will take that as a hint it maybe simpler to remove myself for around here.



  • I regularly read books in English and then in their French translation, out of curiosity. It happens less often the other way around (because there is, sadly for the US, a lot less French authors being translated into English) but I’ll do it on occasions. I don’t focus much on the cover, to be honest.

    Why can the title be so different once translated (not all the time)? For the same reasons it a movie title can be so different too, I suppose: market studies and cultural context. The same with the cover design: what sells in the USA probably would not sell that well in a few European countries.


  • I don’t visualize it. It’s just there, just escaped from my head right onto the paper, and it’s written just how one is supposed to be writing it.

    To me, it’s a question of practice. The more (regularly) you write the more it become a reflex, the more you enrich your vocabulary (read widely, read as often as possible) the more you will ‘know’ words and how to write them (also true for grammar and full sentences). I never think about crossing the t or put on accent on ‘à, é, è, ë, and so on’ when I need one… it comes naturally because I internalized the various (French, or whatever other languages I can write) grammatical rules.

    BTW, it’s ok to forget them on occasions, provided the word/sentence remains legible. My handwriting is pretty shitty but I’m used to reading it so I need not write every single accentuation or diacritic sign in order to be by able to re-read myself. I also devised my own shorthand along the years and most of my notes will be written using that shorthand (meaning a lot of symbols instead of traditional words)… I would never use shorthand, and would take a lot more care with accents and punctuation (and grammar) knowing someone else will be reading what I write.

    As for the signature, I just decided on mine when I was maybe 15 or 16 and have kept using it since then, now nearing my 60. So, yeah it just flows out of the pen without me thinking much about it.


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    As keen as I am to spend my day groveling to some mod, who’s probably as charmingly direct as your good self, to determine which petty rule my entirely vanilla post transgressed, I think I’d rather just get on with my life.

    Then, why even bother mentioning it? Not trolling, it’s a real question: if it’s not worth you asking the concerned person their motivation/reasoning, what interest is there for you in sharing it online with random people like myself?


  • Can anywhere here please suggest me where I can find free help to start my own Marketing Agency?

    You don’t.

    You don’t create an agency from scratch, you create an Agency out of talents. SO you need some talents to begin with. Yours or some hired ones.

    You need to show people what you can sell them before they will be willing to put a cent on your name… Even more so in the age of AI where every single person able to click a big fat mouse button and to type a few words in web form now consider themselves the best creative ever/ So, what can you give your customers no AI will give them in a couple clicks?

    If you have zero money, you should still be able to find some time to develop your skills and your business… by yourself. Without help and without… much income either, if any. If you can’t, well that is probably what you should work on first as you will need a way to sustain yourself for a certain time.

    To find customers, I would start by soliciting every single local businesses around my place, in person I mean. Local businesses? Yep the kind that most will probably not even consider potential customers because they’re so small and so not hyped. The thing is that you (nor would I, btw) probably won’t get an exclusive deal with Nike or Apple or Louis Vuitton tomorrow. By working with them you will 1) build expertise (here the real value is) 2) build a portfolio (look at what I can do) 3) build an address book (aka meet people who may want to hire you or that may want to work with you)

    Also, keep in mind failing (over and over again) is at the heart of learning anything difficult. And becoming a pro in any endeavor certainly qualify as ‘difficult’.



  • There’s like this weird, subtle one upmanship about every little thing and a lot of people are very nitpicky and judgmental

    Like on any other social network, no?

    The issue I see around here is that there are very few of us (we’re not Twitter or Reddit or whatever) so the negativity is always more visible and more noticeable. Then, any user that leave is a real loss because there are already so few of us.

    It kind of takes the fun out of being on here, TBH. Or am I the only one experiencing this?

    I would not have stayed on Lemmy/piefed had I not learned to filter out what I call its constant ‘noise’ (by blocking users, blocking keywords and by only showing content I’m subscribed to in my feed), removing all the hatred, all the high moral ground political/moral/judgmental non-sense, and also removing the constant flow of low effort posts, and mere trolls. It’s still not perfect but it’s so much better like that!

    I’m a patient dude, I’ll see how Lemmy/Piefed (d)evolves in the long run. I wish it won’t crumble under its own political non-sense, it’s constant hatred of anything they disagree with, but if it does, so be it. I will know I’ll have given it a fair chance, and did my part, to show it was not just that.


  • Old dude speaking, here:

    • if you’re inexperienced like you said you were, you probably should not let some random person pay for everything at least when you first start dating them… They may (I insist, conditional form) quickly come to expect something out of all the money they’re spending with you. Maybe not but I would not take any chance, if I were in your shoes.
    • As an old dude (bis) I think I should mention I’m always willing to purchase books for younger people (boys as well as girls), even kids, provided there is no possibility for my gift being misinterpreted as something I certainly do not wish it to be.



  • I remember composing letters in college, just barely pre-internet. It was a lovely art. Next time I find a book of letter, I’m picking it up.

    +1 because I can’t do more :)

    I’m a regular contact type of person. This whole thing of “we don’t talk for years but then we have a phone call and catch up” is not for me.

    • It needs not be years, it’s just a way of speaking.
    • Like anything new, we learn to be good at it. Remember your first bike ride? Mine hurt. How you learned to write? Was it by writing an amazing poem in an not less amazing cursive or was it by clumsily tracing batons letters (and getting them wrong)? Me too ;) Remember how you learned to walk? Was it by running and winning a marathon or by falling, over and over again on your diapered bottom? That’s learning and that’s worth it. Bot saying you should do this or that, just that maybe it’s worth trying even if it’s not that great to start with ;)


  • Started ‘Till we have Faces’, a novel by C.S. Lewis. I quite like this author and reading the first chapter of the book make me think I won’t be disappointed this time either.

    Lewis is the author of ‘Narnia’, but he is also (and, imho, foremost) a christian author that has written really deep essays well worth reading even if you’re not the religious kind of person (I’m not). A book like ‘The Abolition of Man’ should be considered a must read to anyone worrying about the type of society we’re building today.

    It’s a (short) collection of 3 (or is it 4?) lectures he did back in 1942 aimed at… British bomber pilots (young people expected to erase entire cities) in which he discusses what it means to educate children and why it should matter how we decide to do it. He also points out how easily education can be used to create… a lesser, smaller, or heartless, kind of humanity, or no humanity. Hence the title of the book. A great book.


  • being a romantic partner seems to be the only way to be a priority in anyone’s life.

    I would say this may not be the ‘right’ way to consider the question. But it’s hard to explain, even more so in English. The aim should not be to be a priority. It should be to be valuable to one another.

    I know a few people but I’ve one friend. One, that’s it. We’ve been friend since we were kids (now nearing our 60s). We don’t live in the same country anymore and, naturally since we also both try to reduce our impact on the environment by traveling (a lot) less, we don’t see that often. Also, we both have our life(s), friends, and family. And that’s fine: we seldom meet, we even seldom chat like we used (spending countless night discussing philosophy and politics (we both are complete opposites on that matter) and spending countless hours writing to one another the moment we could not meet IRL anymore) but we are friends. We both know from experience the moment we need it the other will be at our door, virtually our in person depending the situation. To me that’s friendship: we don’t spend a lot more time with many other persons, but that doesn’t change a thing. I mean, we can and have put such or such discussion on hold, sometimes for a year or more and get back to it the moment the opportunity arise like if we had left it the night before…

    It is something we learned back in the 80s and 90s, before we had readily available ‘Internet’ and before everybody and their mother switched to email and later on to social networks, back when we had to use snail mail to discuss despite distance and wait for our letter to reach them, and wait even more to receive their response. Not just the two of us, many other people used to do that back then. Being patient and being fine with only getting a few minutes here and there and make the most out of those.

    like, I don’t (expect to) spend all my time with my spouse… 34 years and counting together. A liberty we both consider a key part in respecting one another’s. She has friends and activities I can’t be bothered with, like I have mine she can’t be bothered with. And we both are fine with that. We’re a couple but we remain two individuals that will do stuff on their own, including spending time with other people and having fun without their partner.

    All of that to say we should be fine not being the constant ‘priority’ of someone we truly care, and appreciate whatever time we can spend together, no matter how little.



  • how long do you think we have until the heat death of the universe?

    The universe is not threatened by our heat wave(s) and global warming. If anything, the universe (which is quite larger than our little planet) will die out of cold. Edit: in many, many, (many,) billions years… don’t worry about getting a cold.

    I feel we’ll be all dead in a few weeks.

    Like all of us, you started dying the day you were born. That is not what should worry you: dying is OK if not great as we’re devised to be replaced by younger people… like we replaced our elderly people.

    I am incredibly apprehensive on the high amount of discrete greenhouse effects and carbon footprint emissions polluting the air we breathe

    Fear doesn’t help much. What can you and what do you do to help prevent that, is the only question you should ask yourself. It’s the only one my spouse and I are asking ourselves. Because we can’t force people to change, because we don’t decide for everyone else but we’re still allowed to decide for ourselves, we try to make the less stupid choices we can in our everyday live.



  • Why couldn’t they? Provided they learn to speak and to listen to spoken French. It won’t be easy to begin with but like with anything new, the more you do it the better you get.

    As far being of different origins, things aren’t that simple:

    • English share a lot of vocabulary with French. Even though of German origin, it also has been influenced a lot by Latin, like French obviously.
    • France invaded England a few centuries ago (William the Conqueror was the French Guillaume le Conquérant) and it lasted long enough to have a real impact on the English language.
    • To make things even more complicated, the French language itself, the one spoken by the French people is historically linked to the ‘Francs’ population (French is ‘Français’, in French) that, to grossly summarize, invaded Gauls following the final collapse of the Roman Empire, migrating from what is now Germany (very roughly speaking). So is it kinda… German too? but it would take a few more centuries before what we now consider as French language would resemble anything like French. At the very least, I would say it would at least need to wait for Charlemagne (approx 300 years after Clovis) and maybe even for le cardinal de Richelieu (XVII century/ under the rein of Louis XIII) when he founded the Académie Française (still active today) as a way to promote a single & common language through the entire kingdom of France… which up until then (and for a few more centuries, up well into the XXth the French government had to work hard to reduce the usage of regional languages) was filled with countless argots and patois, or dialects as you would say in English.