I love genuine questions and people putting in the effort to love and understand each other better. If you come at me just wanting to argue I’m going to troll you back. FAFO.
A marriage is a mutual responsibility of the people in it and no one else. Only those two people are even capable of upholding the promises they made to each other. If one or both of them failed to do so that is on them. And again, if they failed to help you understand that it is not your fault, that means that in addition to not being able to keep their own damn promises, they also failed to raise you properly.
Probably not, it depends on what you did. I can (almost) guarantee it was one of two situations though:
it wasn’t actually that bad.
If it was bad enough that you did manage to actually grievously harm or even kill someone, you were almost definitely put in a situation / given access to something no sane adult should or would have ever allowed a 6 year old child to have access to (such as a gun, or being in a position to knock someone off a cliff). It is the responsibility of adults to make sure that 6 year old children are unable to harm other people while they are still learning that their actions have consequences.
As for your current everyday life, I need you to understand that an inferiority / guilt complex is in itself a burden on everyone around you. I once dated a guy with a similar guilt complex and he was impossible to deal with because I kept having to constantly shore up his self esteem for him.
If you really want to do something that benefits other people, start by working on yourself and your self esteem. You may be able to try self-help books, videos, personal mantras, etc, but if you’re not making any headway with those you likely need professional therapy. You are no good to anyone (and even a bit of a drag), if you continue on with this mindset.
Oh, and it’s also the responsibility of adults to raise children who don’t think or act like this. If the people who raised you have even subtly hinted to you that this is your fault in some way, they’re only doing it to avoid having to take responsibility for failing to prevent a six-year old child from causing irreparable harm to something. That means they failed twice, and they did both as adults.
You’re still stuck fixing it though, not because you deserve it but just by way of it not being possible for anyone else to.
Edit: I’m in a bit of a mood about my own parents right now, so if anybody else wants me to roast their parents lmk it’ll probably be very cathartic.
we had some trouble one morning when I was too tired to drive trying to get the dog to the vet. we kept ordering pet Ubers and the drivers kept showing up and canceling when they saw we had the dog. they kept saying they just saw the better rate and didn’t realize it was because we had a dog with us. except it took like 10 minutes each time we had to try and get a new driver and we were trying to make it to the appointment on time at risk of them canceling the appointment and charging us a fee. is Uber going to reimburse me for the missed appointment fee? it didn’t come to that in the end but it was very stressful.
I get a lot of compliments on my use of the English language and I absolutely cannot stand prescriptivists (among other pedants).
Family bathrooms are also great. Once flew with my intellectually disabled sister who fucking fingerpainted a rest stop stall on a previous trip when my mother broke her arm chasing her to the bathroom and she was left to her own devices. This time I brought gloves and wet wipes and there was a little suite kinda thing. I didn’t need the child size toilet or the breastfeeding couch but the nice big accessible area around the adult toilet was good to have. She wasn’t constipated that time so I didn’t have to stop her from digging it out manually again but man; if I’d had to I totally could’ve! 10/10 would use a family bathroom again.
Yeah I was gonna say they’re actually up there with cigarettes apparently, including being addictive, somehow.
Yeah but it’s a -10 to have a panic attack if I don’t wait the full cooldown period.
Travel mug full of herbal tea and a rubiks cube.
Reminds me of this short by an L&D nurse.
As a side note: when an old employer switched from Cerner to Epic they started out the first set of classes explaining Epic’s billing system and showing us how nurses would now be expected to bill for supplies and services. I think they realized how many of us would have not billed for stuff or stopped documenting certain things we knew would be billed more for, because they stopped talking about that pretty quickly.
They’ll make us do every other job in the hospital instead of hiring support staff
Then they’ll get mad because we’re not doing any of those jobs as well as a specialized support staff would AND we’re not getting actual nurse shit done fast enough. But billing? Oh they don’t trust us with billing.
As a final note: other nurses also think this is hilarious. Honestly that community is most of what keeps me going back to reddit. BoRU is getting pretty stale / repetitive, but I can’t find that kind of nurse-to-nurse or even hcw-to-hcw commiseration on lemmy, and there’s a lot of reasons why but the end result is that it’s just difficult to grow that kind of community here.
It is peak abrahamic religion
I’m glad this is getting some positive interaction. I’ve tried posting Bible memes before. idk I thought this was pretty damn funny, and I’ve posted some stuff about gnosticism since learning more about it has become a my wiki rabbithole special interest. Like that one in particular isn’t even one of those tired het “marriage bad” jokes he literally starts by complimenting his own wife. Like a lot of Bible stories are just genuinely funny as fuck like the thing where it just goes on for a good couple of verses about dudes jizzing bucketfuls of cum. When you grew up with that shit sometimes it’s fun to just look back like wait …wut?
but literally any bible / Christianity comm gets downvoted to hell on lemmy and I’m just like. Y’all know the block function is a thing right? You can just let people have their community and have their own discussions. I just block all the AI porn comms because I don’t really wanna see it but I’m not gonna mess with the posts because idc what other people are into. Like seriously just look up “Bible” and “Christianity” and just go block all those comms. If it’s that upsetting for you to see them then block them. Live your best life as far from it as possible, especially if you’ve got religious trauma.
Especially those of us that grew up fundie and regardless of what we believe now it was a huge part of our childhood and we can’t even make memes about it with each other that will show up in our own feeds normally weighted with the stuff from the other comms we follow?
What is fun but an evolutionary drive?
Tricks monkey into providing food and shelter like a boss
…by murdering any creature it sees that’s less than half is size for fun, even if it ultimately decides not to eat the guts after ripping them out.
Especially if I get sent back to the psych ward (jk the straps are too long I would NOT let me keep them if I was my nurse)
You can actually get them on temu / aliexpress / other cheap sites. Usually they’re called some variation of “Ballet / yoga slipper socks.” I did order some special variety that fits my 10-11 feet (I’m quite tall for AFAB) but that listing goes in and out of existence on Amazon and I haven’t seen them anywhere else.
Oh yeah those are exactly like the kind that gave me pressure / friction sores. The toe socks provide exactly the right amount of separation to prevent over / underlapping without causing sores.
They’re also hard to get into shoes, I don’t so much mind the bumps (weirdly enough with all my sensory issues) but I have to flip them inside out to get them into my shoes.
Large as in S M L XL XXL etc
Large as in S M L XL XXL etc
Since I’ve had my IUD it’s super sporadic and sometimes I kinda forget and then last week I wasn’t even up trying to pass meds or lift patients or anything I was literally just sitting suicide watch and just doubled over in the chair wondering if I was about to involuntarily expel my IUD, the world’s biggest shart, or both simultaneously. I wound up begging a coworker for a break and finding a bathroom off the unit to destroy.