Better vehicle, same people. 🤷🙂

You do the food crime, you do the food time.

That dude in your room is Jesus.

Excuse me sir I think you dropped your monocle. (╭ರ_•́)

Exercise helped me, but didn’t work by itself.

Adding therapy helped more, but didn’t work by itself.

Adding meds helped more, but I don’t lean on them alone.

Which is just to say, it’s not either/or. :-)

That said, I started going on long nature hikes, usually 4-5 miles but up to 17 sometimes. Download podcasts and music for offline access. Later, my therapist suggested taking notes after my walks, about how I felt / what was on my mind – now I do it more often than not, and it’s been helpful too.

I think the plural is Margots Robbie.

I agree with the sentiment, but acktshually… https://blog.chromium.org/2021/01/limiting-private-api-availability-in.html

Lots of people get by without wearing glasses too, but that doesn’t mean that my blind eyes don’t need them.

Lots of people get by without a therapist, but that doesn’t mean my crumbling mental health doesn’t need one.

Everyone needs different things to lean on – don’t shame others for having their own needs, even if you don’t understand what it’s like to be in their head. :-)

Being raised christian really soured me to anything christian. ;-)

Tanking Janet Jackson’s career and slut-shaming Britney. Both were accepted behaviors at the time, but IMO that just makes it worse, he never even had to really account for it.

🎶 Down in the workshop, all the elves were making toys…

Donnie Darko

28:06:42:12

Now I really want to know what the sexual equivalent of en passant would be.

Did you choose to be an ass who misses the point? or did someone force you?

As an engr manager, I’ve often seen disparity as a result of being hired during good years vs bad years for the company. Or when someone gets a better offer to leave, the company may change their pay but no one else’s. Or hiring externally vs a transfer from another internal team. Or whether the team is coding for frontend web vs dev tools, even if using the same language. Or if female.

It’s always a challenge for one person to fix – with HR, with the department head, with yearly budget. And sometimes fixing one disparity means not having the sway to fix another as well.

Which is to say – pay transparency and unions are good for everyone. And if the company can’t afford to treat the employees equitably, then the company shouldn’t exist. (Or it should reduce its avocado toast budget.)

The trick is to carefully check underneath the ice dispenser.

🎵 And Alice’s Restaurant. 🎶

If you don’t already, you can view your watch history and delete things.

I do that with anything not music related, and it keeps my recommendations extremely clean.

Talking about work during a business dinner does not equal hours. Thinking about work ideas after hours does not equal hours. Fostering a business connection does not equal work hours.

And if they do, then I get to count stressing in the shower, arguments in my head while I go for a walk, ranting to my partner about work problems, and keeping in touch with former coworkers.

Unresolved Textual Tension is a great YouTube / podcast for book reviews and/or roasts. Generally a mix of fantasy and sci-fi, largely newer stuff (The Locked Tomb, Murderbot, Kushiel) with some classics thrown in (Dune, Hyperion). The show features 3 people with great chemistry.