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Cake day: July 2nd, 2023

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  • Finding a better therapist would help. Also finding the right people to vent to. Some people handle it better than others. You can try even saying, “hey, I’m not looking for advice, I just need to vent, would you mind being an ear?” at least that way you have their permission and they understand that they aren’t expected to fix whatever the issue is. Controlling who you vent to is also a good way to prevent venting to the wrong asshole who can’t shut their mouth.

    I know you said no Journaling, but also consider a journal app on your phone or even just a Google docs. It’s a discreet way to vent briefly. I remember also taking a pen and a notebook and writing how I felt over the same line over and over so it wasn’t legible to anybody walking by. It’s likely something you’ll never read again and it’s about letting out the frustration more than anything.







  • That’s weird that you’ll axle and water pump are needing to be replaced before 100k. You might want to get a second opinion from a small business mechanic. It sounds like the boot on your axle might be leaking and a smaller mechanic might be willing to replace that rather than replace the whole axle. If it’s not knocking the your axle should still be fine but if you don’t ateast refill the grease in the boots it’ll fail eventually. As for the water pump, I have to wonder what makes them think it’s failing.







  • I know nothing about this piece but it feels incredibly sad and empty.

    1 plate when you think there would be two if it was an anniversary of a couple. Or is it an anniversary of something else.

    An unopened bottle of champagne… Did one spouse not show up? Why? Is the marriage ending? Or maybe it’s not open because it’s not a happy kind of anniversary. Maybe it is a remembrance of someone passing. This might explain the empty plate. Some cultures leave a plate at a table for someone who has passed.



  • I’ve kinda learned over time what is appropriate for what through personal experience or by listening to others. I also ask myself questions like can it wait a couple of days? Being in America I also ask myself is it worth going to the ER for this? Someone mentioned too that a lot of insurance companies now have nurses you can call for this sort of help.

    If you genuinely think it’s life threatening, go to the ER. If it’s something that isn’t life threatening but should be taken care of ASAP, then Urgent care is a good choice. Something like a broken bone, stitches. They have a lot of equipment. If they can’t treat you or discover it’s something worse they will send you to the ER.

    I had an issue with heart palpitations a few year ago. I went to my primary care doctor and then went to a specialist. I think total it cost like 300$ or something. I was worried it was something worse yeah it turned out to be stress and anxiety. But the specialist did rule out any heart problems which included those scary ones where healthy people drop dead. That was worth the peace of mind. If I had gone to the urgent care they would have ruled out any immediate life threatening conditions and then have you follow up with your pcp or maybe get you to the specialist.