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  • Friend of mine started a womens’ friend group in a small town. She posted the first meet up on Facebook, made it for a wine bar at a time not too many people would be there. She used an agenda, having us write and doodle answers to questions like “how did you make friends as a child?” “What has been difficult about making friends now?” “What kind of activities would you be interested in?”

    Some of the hopes for the group included things like having a place to ask for help if you needed a ride or help moving a couch, or inviting someone to just hang out for moral support while you fold laundry.

    The group set up a signal chat to make regular plans, ask for advice from people who had different experience levels, discuss current events, etc.

    I would recommend doing this with some kind of narrow focus, like a particular gender or age group, or life stage commonality.





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    To me the joke isn’t “wife bad”, it’s "this is why the phrase ‘calm down’ shouldn’t be in your vocabulary.

    There used to be a webcomic (Abstruse Goose maybe? I can’t remember and can’t find it) where the first panel is “things that calm me down: drinking tea, hot baths, watching a funny movie.” Second panel: “things that don’t calm me down: ‘hey calm down, bro.’”



  • I think the question is more interesting if you take out the “better quality” qualification. What does better quality even mean? That’s too subjective. I think what we’re trying to figure out is whether an original has any properties to it that a copy cannot.

    Let’s say your grandma dies and leaves you something special in memory of her - a ring. Maybe it was her wedding ring and you wear it every day; it makes you feel close to her. Now say I replaced that ring with an identical copy. Does that change anything? Is there some special property imbued in the original? Does it make a difference if I tell you about the swap immediately or if you wear the “fake” for a year before finding out?

    There are forgers who can make near identical copies of art. It’s illegal because no one wants a “fake.” But why? In the art world, I think it has a lot to do with exclusivity. The value is in there being only one.











  • I’m going to give you a list that may be more on the fringes of what you want.

    You might be interested in Clive Barker’s The Great and Secret Show, and its sequel Everville. It’s been a while since I’ve read them. I think Everville had more of the eldritch stuff, but I don’t recall whether it holds up on its own.

    Peter Cline’s 14 fits what you want, though it has a bit more of a modern tone. The Fold takes place in the same world.

    American Elsewhere by Robert Jackson Bennet.

    The Way Up Is Death by Dan Hanks

    An Absolutely Remarkable Thing by Hank Green