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Cake day: June 10th, 2023

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  • first off, i don’t have to justify shit to you, this comment is partly to let me vent and partly to show other people that they’re not evil for being born with traits that class them as "privileged.

    I can assure you i don’t have the slightest privilege of dominating spaces, as i’ve been living with undiagnosed autism and probably also ADHD, and have spent most of my life (and still do) in front of my computer with no real life friends and only going outside when i can force myself to go on a walk or ride the bike, or when i go to the grocery store.

    I have also always been told that i’m a straight cis man, and believed so until recently because i well obviously if everyone says it that’s how it is.
    Guess what? i’m actually quite into dicks, after having spent like a year gradually easing myself into the idea that i’m fucking ALLOWED to not be straight i now realize that i’d quite like to suck a dick at some point even! And while i think i prefer to present as a man, i’ve also realized i wouldn’t much mind if i woke up as a woman some day, and that frankly i’d rather we all never mention the concept of gender again.

    To anyone reading this: It’s okay to be privileged, it does not make you evil, it should not force you into being what people expect of you, but you also shouldn’t force yourself to try to be something else just because you don’t want to be considered privileged.
    The only privilege that matters is wealth and power, and luckily that is easily rectified by sharing your wealth with those who lack it and using your power to help the marginalized of society.


  • this is pretty much what i intended with my comment.
    I spent most of my life with undiagnosed autism which i’ve now realized resulted in me experiencing quite a bit of trauma i never even realized was out of the norm, and i’m so utterly fucking sick of people latching on to features that are associated with privilege as if that somehow guarantees the person cannot have experienced bad things.

    I’ve also as of late started realizing i’m not quite as straight as i thought i was, and how delayed that realization has been due to people assuming i’m straight and therefore a bit of an other in many leftist communities.

    No, fuck this self-segregation, we’re all people and the only grouping that matters is that between the proletariat and the bourgeois.

    This is where i run out of brainpower a bit, but i’m gonna finish the comment and hope this makes some sense:
    I think the idea of being privileged for a trait you didn’t choose is itself reinforcing privilege, it makes people who are viewed as privileged think that’s what they are and thus they can’t have “unprivileged” traits, if everyone calls you a straight cis white man then you’re not going to feel like you’re allowed to explore yourself and realize that you’re not really that straight, or you’d actually prefer to be a woman or not have a gender at all.

    If we want an inclusive and just world, we have to remove barriers between people, we have to make everyone feel part of the same group so that we can work together instead of working against each other.