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Cake day: June 29th, 2024

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  • Others here have already made a lot of good points, so I just want to add one I haven’t seen addressed yet.

    Having only one friend or one group of friends can be “dangerous”, because what happens when you lose them? I know, this is not something we like to think about, but people have accidents or get sick or die suddenly or you have a huge argument or… And then you have no one to turn to to help you to deal with the situation.

    If you have several “independent” friends or friend groups, you have a much stronger support network. You have someone else to turn to, even if it’s just for venting about problems with your other friends. For me personally this kind of social security – knowing I won’t ever have to deal with things on my own – is very important and reduces a lot of my anxiety about the future.

    On a side note this reasoning also applies to maintaining friendships during a relationship.







  • Me: hits return.

    Word: “Sure, here, a new line. I already indented it for you, same as the one before. Like a good IDE.”

    Me: “That’s nice of you, Word, but I want this one to be indented one tab stop less than the line before.” Hits delete.

    Word: “Delete, you say? Sure, back to the line before.”

    Me: “No, no! Just delete one tab! Maybe, if I select the line and hit dele…”

    Word: “Why of course!”

    Me: “Shit, it’s gone. Undo! Hmm… Move the thingy here on top?”

    Word: “Move all the lines you say? No problem!”

    Me: “Nvm, I’ll just indent everything by hand with spaces.”














  • That was kinda my point. If you rely on the fact that your boyfriend or girlfriend understands you well enough that they wouldn’t do a proposal that makes you feel uncomfortable, then them doing something like that might be a deal breaker or at least not an immediate yes. Because it would make you rethink whether they really understand you. But we’re probably getting lost in hypotheticals here. As long as everyone involved in the OP was happy, I’m happy for them.