It’s because mortality is absolutely fucking terrifying. Anyone who says otherwise, be they atheist or religious or what, is just using some heavy copium/denial to try to deal with that shit.
Cue the inevitable response I get from this about insane people claiming that they are happy that life has an end point and that they will be happy that they will cease to ever exist again so some mold can be fed or some random bullshit.
I don’t have ADHD and it still sounds insane to me!
That’s odd. I have lived in apartment complexes for a large portion of my life. There has always been a single outgoing mail slot with the rows of mailboxes at the apartment complexes. It blends in so it might not look too different than the rest of the bank of mailboxes. This is in the US though so idk how other countries handle it.
I live in the southern US and I see them daily. They seem to be more common than squirrels. They run away from you though so they don’t bother anyone. At my old apartment, there was a period of time somehow lizards kept getting inside my place. I kept trying to free them but I would accidentally kill them when trying to handle them. Another one I just tried to let live in my apartment, but he quickly died…presumably from not being able to find enough food and water. They are super fragile.
You can’t say you like literally any product on the internet otherwise people call you a corporate shill. It’s frustrating because people sometimes like things…that’s just the nature of life in general. Sometimes you like something that was made by a company and not just already existing in nature…
Reminds me though…I recently got called a “Russian bot” by someone on Lemmy recently. I was super confused because the content of the conversation had nothing to do with Russia or the war or Russian viewpoints or anything. It was so out of left field that I had no idea what they were talking about.
Weirdly I don’t think I’ve ever had a “phase” like other people seem to have gone through. Is this common enough to not have had something like that?
I guess it was possibly as a teen when I was being LOLRANDOM on internet forums. Not sure if that counts tho because I have always been an internet dweller.
Thank you very much
Omg hope she ended up healing up ok after a while. I know I’ve heard after a break that people don’t necessarily always fully heal which sucks.
That’s where I’ve always been confused. Every living being wants to propogate their species through innate biological urges and behaviors, whether they realize it or not. Obviously humans recognize these behaviors and are able to choose whether or not to actually have children or to simply act on these urges without procreating (condoms, birth control, etc.). But the innate biological inclinations are still there.
It’s odd for me because I’ve never had these urges or inclinations for sex. Sometimes it makes me feel like I’m not human or something. Because every living being seems to experience this. Even when I discovered the concept of asexuality, I found that a very significant number of these individuals either oddly still had a sex drive or they were sexually traumatized in some way which blocked it. I have never had a sex drive and was never sexually traumatized. I was not a “late bloomer”, as I’m in my 30s with the same lack of normal human feelings.
I find it incredibly interesting that people knew the always wanted things like that…a spouse, a grand wedding, children of their own. I don’t think I’ve ever really thought that way about those things.
It’s tricky for me though because I’ve always had a social need. I don’t have a need for sex like the majority of other humans do, but I do have a need to be social. Lickily I fulfill most of my social needs by going to work, but it can be stressful at times.
I mean yeah, can be pricey, especially if you want all the features. But you can go bottom of the barrel bare bones basic shit and have it be not too much of an ordeal.
I bought my washer and dryer new and it totalled less than I paid for my cell phone lmao. They function just fine. I actually specifically didn’t want extra fancy features because it meant more ways to potentially break.
I feel you on that unfortunately. I think therapy works for people who are good at gaslighting themselves, but beyond that everyone is SOL. I also think it can be useful for very specific problems (like I had a friend who went because she had panic attacks) that are easy to identify. If you have more vague, nonspecific issues, then therapists are lost as to what to do and therapy itself becomes useless.
I’m gonna try again soon tho we’ll see.
Wow thanks I’m going to go cry now
It’s usually not a psychology issue. It’s a money issue. The vast majority of people on the planet cannot afford to retire early.
Honestly, it’s kind of obnoxious that you’re inundated with porn by default in “all”. I mean, it’s fine if people are into that, but it’s not necessarily what every user wants to deal with blocking when the are a new user. Some might just erroneously assume the whole platform is just a porn site and leave if that isn’t what they want. I have blocked a shitton of porn communities because I’m not interested in that, but there are a hell of a lot of them. I’m glad instance blocking became a thing because prior to that I had a zillion communities blocked.
Would just nice for the default to be different is all. I get why some people are immediately super turned off by using Lemmy because of stuff like that.
Again, I’m not trying to say porn is necessarily bad, but it’s a bit jarring when that’s not what you came here for and when it’s not what the platform is “advertised” as. It’s like if Grandma tries to join Facebook to stay connected to people but when she first logs in there’s just porn all over her feed. Obviously that doesn’t happen there. I’m just trying to paint a picture.
People still call places for takeout in 2025 instead of using the internet to order???
Thanks for helping to validate my comment haha. I do appreciate it.
Is there anything specific you’ve done and would recommend to help swing in the other direction like you’ve stated?
Was curious as to what you might have found helpful. I had tried the beginnings of CBT in the past, but it just makes me feel bad and frustrated. I have always been taught that my thoughts and feelings are wrong, and that’s effectively the core of CBT. I don’t like it because it just propagates how everything I think and feel is invalid. Yet it’s the “trendy” thing to do nowadays so every therapist and their mother uses it as their modality.
Interestingly though I don’t think that this issue necessarily stems from deliberately toxic parents. My mom did the best she could and is very loving and nurturing but I was just too much for her to know how to deal with in this way.
What the fuck even is this? Does anyone have a source because I am horrified and entertained