you’re asking the refugee who just immigrated, is learning the local language, and may not have had as much exposure to web banking systems and MFA and many aspects of cybersecurity to figure out how to set this up and manage it well without accidentally losing access.

you’re asking the old retiree who has no family left to help them and doesn’t understand technology very well but understands how to open the shortcut to the banks website and check their texts to suddenly understand a much more complex system than they’re used to.

you’re asking the young adult whose school didn’t teach them about technology and they were too poor to have much of their own to instantly learn about even more tools and apps on top of trying to adjust to using technology in general.

I’m not saying that improving security or moving towards a more secure baseline is bad, but for some critical public services security absolutely does not always trump accessibility. cybersecurity and technology education is more necessary at all levels and must equitably taught, but that will take time, resources, and effort. there are ways to improve security without compromising accessibility.

you underestimate how bad a lot of people are at using technology. something like banking can be a necessity and must be accessible to all. many banks should encourage more secure MFA but i understand why they can’t require it.

Bitwarden as Vaultwarden enables TOTP.

or it turned out so great that when presented the opportunity they were excited to do so

A) you don’t know someone’s situation so don’t pass judgement when there are very valid reasons theg may not have the time of energy, as if mental health isn’t a valid reason already

B) soaking for 5 minutes is definitely not the same getting a good long soak

I actually have a hybrid setup. My public DNS and my mail server are in the cloud as those are too important to risk going down. I also have a FreeIPA replica in the cloud to help manage them. Then I set basically everything else up in my homelab because I don’t care if roundcube goes down so long as IMAP and SMTP still work.

There are various forms of sexual assault but they violated his consent and then continued to engage in a sexual activity. that’s rape.

what if your local community and the trek into town was bikeable and/or had a bus route to a robust rail network

maybe we’re dumb for shitting on the jellyfish’s way of life.

meanwhile i set a wait and save so i have time to finish getting ready and uber tells me it’s already arrived.

Definitely hang out with people and try to have fun, it’ll help take your mind off things and begin to remind you who you are outside of the relationship.

But I’m curious why going on a walk with a friend in nature would be cheating? Hanging out alone with someone of the gender(s) you’re attracted to isn’t cheating. While everyone has different definitions of cheating I think most would agree that violating your partner’s boundaries around sexual, emotional, or romantic intimacy is usually what constitutes cheating; hanging out with a friend in a purely platonic way isn’t cheating and if your partner made you think so that’s a bit of a red flag in my opinion.

Exist in and feel those emotions, and then let them go as much as you can. As others have said, time will heal this wound. Don’t run into the arms of someone else or try to numb this pain; it’s important you feel it. Rushing into another relationship will only bury this pain by putting you in an unhealthy situation; numbing it will only lead to bad decisions and possible substance abuse. Let yourself feel this way, as horrible as it feels, and understand that it won’t be forever.

You will be okay, and to be honest you will probably be more than okay. In a period that seems impossibly long now but laughably short at the end of this, you will become a better, stronger, and healthier person with a greater capacity to love and the wisdom of who better to give that love to. It is difficult, but you will survive. And then you will thrive. Love yourself and ride this out. You got this.

I would agree with you if this person wasn’t schizophrenic. This would only worsen their symptoms and probably lead to escalations that would result in further property damage or violence. At that point you are feeding their delusions and even justifying them.

absolutely insane take

take a meter stick, now cut it in half. glue it back together. a meter is probably a little bit longer than this since you lost some material cutting.

Peepoodo & The Super Fuck Friends

Extremely NSFW French cartoon that teaches sex education and is about a horny little hamster exploring the world (and a lot of people).

You will probably want to fuck the cat. It’s okay, everyone wants to fuck the cat. The cat is hot.

In elementary/middle school at a small Catholic school in a progressive major North American city, it was a week or two where we got some workbooks and were separated by sex (this was as gender discussions were beginning to hit the mainstream). They were fine, they were certainly informative and educational and didn’t lie. I do recall them focusing on abstinence but it was mostly about the biology and family planning iirc.

I then went to the largest public high school in my city. Freshman year we had a health class and an entire unit was focused on sexual health. We learned about different contraceptive methods and their efficacy, STIs (had to do group presentations on them), the biology and in/outs of reproduction, sexual and gender orientation (iirc), the legality of things and actions and some stuff about consent (as a kink practitioner and queer person, I would’ve liked more but it’s probably a lot more than most have ever learned about consent), and things along those lines. We were also given resources and our teacher was super nice and helpful about this stuff.

We also learned about drugs, the different types of drugs, their effects, withdrawals, and risks. It was municipally mandated, if not state mandated, educational content so it was standardized at least across the city, but I kinda doubt it’s taught as equitably as it was in my high school. But it was incredibly comprehensive and extremely educational. While I still made a lot of mistakes as a dumb horny teenager, did things i shouldn’t have, and got hurt/hurt people by being a dumb horny teenager (no SA/SH), it prepared me very well for my experiences and set me up to be the safe and respectful person I am today (who knows how to safely disrespect you when you ask nicely <3)

the person being stalked might be under severe mental duress from being stalked, but it definitely sounds like they have a host of issues of their own.

yeah owning one alone is unlikely to get you caught, and you can probably come up with excuses (“it’s just an SDR not a jammer!”) but they’re extremely heavily restricted over here.

radio jammers like this are federally illegal in the US and possession of one is a massive felony. That’s if anyone notices and you get caught, but just a heads up.