• fin@sh.itjust.worksEnglish
    5·
    17 days ago

    This is soooo relatable. Do any of you know how to get rid of this thinking? Should I be tired enough not to think about it?

    • galmuth@feddit.ukEnglish
      2·
      17 days ago

      I don’t think there’s a magic wand to stop it… I just drown it out by listening to podcasts.

    • darvit@lemmy.darvit.nlEnglish
      2·
      17 days ago

      Yaknow, there’s probably no easy way, but you can try telling yourself that everything is fine and that you are fine, even if you think it’s a lie, will probably help. Fake it till you make it actually works even if you don’t believe in it.

      Another strategy is to think what you would think if someone else made those mistakes instead of you (you will probably say it’s fine).

      Yet another strategy is to say fuck the world and stop giving a shit about what anybody thinks, but it’s a bit difficult.

      • intensely_human@lemm.eeEnglish
        1·
        14 days ago

        The rational reason to face the cavalry is it hurts less to die on your feet.

        As an aside, it’s the only way to survive.

        So your choices are:

        • Cower and die a pain-enhanced death
        • Stand and 99% chance of dying a pain-blunted death; 1% chance of surviving

        People think the reason to fight is that 1% chance at surviving. But the other, more likely, outcome of fighting is also better than a coward’s death. It literally hurts less to die fighting.

        Once you know that, it’s a no-brainer. Dopamine is an analgesic, and you only get dopamine when you stand up and keep moving. It makes the day suck less to try.

        To relate it to our daily lives, where there’s no cavalry charging us, it hurts less to try and fail than it does to never try at all.

        People think failing hurts, but it’s not a linear function. Dopamine is a painkiller. Trying and failing is like getting punched on novocaine; not trying at all is getting slapped without any painkillers. You’d think getting punched would be worse than getting slapped, but the punch comes with novocaine.

        This is the reason to try. It immediately eliminates the most painful outcome, which is never having tried.