• 1985MustangCobra@lemmy.ca
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    11 days ago

    i fail to understand how i am very respectable when i try to find a girlfriend yet this misogyny is widely celebrated by some men and some women find it acceptable. is somthing wrong with me?

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      10 days ago

      Women are not a monolith and not all admiration of physical attributes is misogyny.

      If you see it as work or effort to not post online about random peoples physical attributes when you see a picture of them, then yea you should look at yourself a bit. It shouldn’t feel like you deserve a reward for not being like that.

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        10 days ago

        I don’t feel like i diverse a reward, and if the comments are reserved to a place where it’s consensual, i don’t see an issue. but imagine your picture was being shared online and people who have no idea are, make comments like this about you? wouldn’t you feel a bit upset about that?

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          10 days ago

          Yes, that is absolutely unacceptable. But that has nothing to do with your personal situation and I would say it is unhealthy to relate the two.

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              10 days ago

              You have a common and problematic view of things. You asked if you are doing something wrong, it looks like you probably are. I’d advise you question your worldview a bit and talk honestly with folks you feel you can respect on how they got from where you are to where they are.