• Velma@lemmy.today
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      Someone else being happy with their life isn’t a condemnation on yours.

      Four kids and a husband sounds like a nightmare to me as well, but the father clearly is happy about it. And that’s ok.

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        Although the remark about bragging suggests that this guy is unaware of the existence of other standards, which is something he can be legitimately mocked for.

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          It was an attempt to be polite because he was expressing extreme happiness for himself and that can be taken as selfish in this type of social interaction.

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      Why are you taking offense to someone saying your lifestyle sounds terrible to them? They’re not saying you must be unhappy, just that they don’t want to live that way.

      I don’t want kids, and I’m sure those with kids that they wanted are very happy, and I’m glad there are people for whom that is a happy life because it wouldn’t be to me.

      Gotta edit my comment to say I was totally being autistic and completely missed your joke on the first pass, my bad!

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        The remark about bragging suggests that this guy is unaware of the existence of other standards, which is something he can be legitimately mocked for.

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        I’m not taking offense. It sounded to me like the guy in this image was taking offense. I was asking the same questions, you’re asking me now. “Why would you take offense to someone saying they’re happy?” Clearly I’m the only one interpeting it that way

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          I don’t know if the original person in the picture meant it that way, but I do know that this meme is frequently used to start an antinatalist circle jerk, so I support you coming out swinging.

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            The antinatalists and the childfree don’t need much to make themselves the victims in comment sections tbf

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              Really hoping I didn’t come across as an antinatalist because I fucking hate antinatalists. They’re the dumbest fucking people.

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                Nah you’re good. Your other comment acknowledged that having kids makes some people happy even if it wouldn’t make you happy.

                Anti-natalists really are the worst at respecting other people’s choices.

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          Yeah I don’t think the guy in the image was taking offense, it was just a funny response to the father apologizing for being so happy.

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          I really don’t understand your phrasing of your original comment then because it was really coming off as passive aggression

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      It’s a question of figuring out who and what you are. What defines you and gives you purpose as an individual vs tryimg to stuff all of that into a role that leans heavily on another human being doing that for you.