• Nepenthe@kbin.social
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    11 months ago

    because you (they?) have to also worry about losing potential romantic partners if people think you’re queer.

    Honestly, it really shouldn’t be a worry. Maybe it’s me, but unless they’re being really obvious about another guy’s body, I can’t think of a compliment that would give me that impression.

    Even muscles, if the subject is in fact jacked, I would just think they’re a really supportive person and like them more because of it. The insinuation about their innate personality would briefly grab my attention.

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      11 months ago

      Oh, completely agree. It’s ridiculous for people to fear that reaction, and ridiculous for people to assume something based on a compliment. But it’s one of those things that isn’t going to change until we all just say fuck it and change it. I’m rooting for gen z to do this. Lol.

      • Ataraxia@sh.itjust.works
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        11 months ago

        Tell that to men that have been threatened or even had their asses kicked for doing that. A lot of men out there get violent when they think a man is hitting on them.