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Cake day: March 23rd, 2020

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  • Currently watching a cringe dating video and I need to yeet a few off my chest:

    Guys: For the love of God, ASK HER QUESTIONS. Awkward silence? Ask her about her family. She is asking about you? Ask about her passions. Her last hobbies. Everyone loves talking about themselves. If you like a girl, make her talk and she will like you.

    For anybody: See someone cute at school? At the gym? Strike up convo about literally anything - “Oh damn nice shoes, where did you buy them?” - Feed this and later ask for their Insta. Instagram is public enough people will give it out, but private enough you can follow up in DMs later

    While dating: Do things to make him/her happy. Don’t expect anything back. Do their chores. Buy them a gift. Take them on a surprise date. Be happy when they’re happy.






  • I read this post yesterday and I went back to find it to write a response.

    First, let me clarity when I give advice, I speak my mind, saying what I would do if I know what I know now but were in your shoes. It isn’t intended to make you feel better, but genuinely a matter of “this is the easiest way to reach my goals”.

    First, let’s address the problems you can fix, and ignore the ones you can’t. You say you’re 76 IQ, but to be honest you wrote a more comprehensive post than most people can. In any case, check out this video by a guy who claims to have 70 IQ and how he holds down a job at McDonalds: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fjDXvXACIEA

    Why a job at McDonalds? For a few reasons:

    1. You already live with your friend. You’re not about to be homeless. This is the best time to start working.
    2. Getting a job means getting experience working. You might not think much of it now, but that’s step 1 to getting a job at a company with a union, or a company that will offer you full time for health insurance
    3. Getting a job will preoccupy your time. You can’t quit drugs and alcohol if you’re not distracting yourself with something else
    4. A new job means meeting new people and learning new things. You might find another path yourself
    5. McDonald’s will let anybody interview and start working. So you can get this job

    Second, you need a long-term plan. This is why I mentioned a full time job with a union: it doesn’t matter if it’s an Amazon Warehouse or a Walmart, a union will look out for your best interests. They will give you a livable future and be the backbone you need for support, since it seems you can’t turn to your family for that.

    Getting a job at a company with a union is harder, but that’s why you do step 1 first. When you have experience and a reputation working, these doors will always be easier to open up.











  • I have not, but I’ve done some immigration and have general advice:

    Immigration is expensive and very time consuming to get the required documents.

    • Figure out how you’re going to get residence, what visa you’ll be on, what visa your kids will be on
    • See if you have to enroll in school ahead of time
    • Test the job market by applying, interviewing, and getting offers beforehand. Even if you decline them, you don’t want to be surprised
    • Make a spreadsheet of needed documentation for each person. Forgetting one thing can screw you up badly on the day you need it
    • Do everything above, twice, to make sure you didn’t screw up the first time

    Imo immigration is an amazing way to live the only life you have, but make sure you put in the work to make it work. I’ve seen lots of immigrants give up and go back to their home country before putting in the effort to fully realize their dreams, and it’s low-key sad