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  • Im an old therapist and I always recommend the power of silence.

    I’m not nice to my co-workers. I am courteous, professional and set boundaries.

    If someone asks me a private question about my life, family, children or anything I consider personal. I just remain silent.

    Silence is simple. It take no brain power, whereas trying to think of ways to deflect questions will be stressful.

    It is not written in stone that I have to answer questions. Silence is a powerful tool.

    I never get into justifying to anyone why I do not want to share my personal stuff. Its personal for a reason.




  • The question: How do I live the rest of my life?

    You must ask yourself, how did I manage to get to where I am today.

    Reading your post, you say you have not been diagnosed.

    The spectrum today, in comparson to 20 years ago has expanded exponentially from the original.

    Personally, I think an introvert could get a diagnosis.

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    You are a human being, you are not a Label or a position on a spectrum.

    There is no perfect human being, we are all different, not one of us is a diagnoses. That is why we are given names at birth.

    I dont know anyone called, adhd, autistic, psychotic or depressed.

    Diagnoses are what the medical profession likes to use to label us and put us in little boxes.

    The rest of the world see each one of us as some random human walking down the street.

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    During my psychotherapy undergraduate years at University, my peers and I did an experiment.

    The experiment was to challenge the status quo, and assess how easy it was to get a diagnoses and get a prescription.

    So being your typical, annoying under grads, a few of us. including me, went to our respective doctors and complained about; feeling down, unable to sleep, not eating very well, and extremely stressed because of the work load at university.

    My GP referred me to see a psychiatrist at my local hospital. I was diagnosed with clinical depression and generalised anxiety disorder (GAD) with a likelihood of a personality disorder.

    He prescribed me the anti-depressant Mirtazapine and pregabalin for the anxiety.

    Obviously, I was healthy 30 year old and didn’t go the the chemist to get my prescription. I also told my doctor so he could remove any referrences to mental ill health added to my medical history.

    We knew it was a stupid thing to do, but it did give us lots to think about, regarding the state of attaining a medical diagnoses, being prescribed unnecessary drugs and being given labels.

    By the way, psychotherapists dont label people.



  • The cypherpunk manifesto, 9th March 1993

    32 years ago we faced the same nightmare. I was 37 years old back then.

    We must defend our own privacy if we expect to have any.

    We must come together and create systems which allow anonymous transactions to take place.

    People have been defending their own privacy for centuries with whispers, darkness, envelopes, closed doors, secret handshakes, and couriers.

    The technologies of the past did not allow for strong privacy, but electronic technologies do.

    Privacy is necessary for an open society in the electronic age.

    Privacy is not secrecy.

    A private matter is something one doesn’t want the whole world to know, but a secret matter is something one doesn’t want anybody to know.

    Privacy is the power to selectively reveal oneself to the world.

    https://www.activism.net/cypherpunk/manifesto.html


  • This is only going to add to the already mass failure in childrens social care.

    Social work used to be an extremely good recognised profession.

    The modern failures in child protection we hear about in the news, is solely down to government policies. Not social workers.

    There used to be the DipSW (Diploma in Social Work) which was dismantled in favour of a degree in social work. The first failure of many.

    In the old days, most of the social workers I came into contact with were women. Women, who had raised their own familes, and had a vast amount of life experience, dealing with life and other families. They had heard and seen it all, from the alcoholic abusive husband, to the violent mentally ill child.

    These social workers were absolutely perfect for working in children’s social services.

    Then, the government of the day, I think it was a tory, decided that they would do away with the DipSW and instead decided, that to work in children’s social services you had to have a university degree.

    so what happened?

    Most of the experienced social workers left social care, only to be replaced by very young newly qualified degree students who had just left university.

    While it is a wonderful experience gaining a degree, it is does not prepare you for a life dealing with manipulative family child abusers.

    reading the list of preferred books while on a degree course and writing a few 3000 word essays, does not prepare you to work in children’s social care or child protection services.

    You cannot expect a 23 year old to be able to manage a manipulative abuser. Nothing can prepare them for the; violence, neglect, physical abuse, psychological abuse or sexual abuse that goes on in abusive families. But this is exactly what is expected of them

    On the other hand, an abuser would have great difficulty manipulating an older, wiser, more experienced, been there, seen it, done it, DipSW qualified social worker, compared to a 23 year old who has just come out of university.

    AI in social work and children’s services!

    what a total fuck up that will be.


  • Have you ever tasted baby food.

    I would not serve it to a starving dog, It tastes disgusting.

    When my babies transitioned from the breast to solid food, I made all my baby food for my kids, with organic produce, spent a few hours each weekend making it, then froze it in little containers, so we had plenty to fall back on, in case the baby was extra hungry.

    The meals were initially vegetarian meals, then I started adding in different cooked meats, finely ground chicken and beef etc.

    As they got older, I would whizz up the food that my wife and I were eating. for instance, If I made a shepherds pie or spaghetti bolognese. I used to whizz some of that up for the kids.

    For the sweet puddings, I used to buy fresh fruit, whizz it up in a food processor, or simmer some apples in some water until soft, and mixed it with my home made greek yoghurt or home made egg custard.

    Home made greek yoghurt, is made from natural yoghurt, by pouring it into a fine seive, and leaving it for a few hours until all the whey has drained out. super tasty thick greek yoghurt. perfect for little growing kids. they love it.

    On the plus side it trains your kids to like proper home made food, and not get used to factory, mass produced, processed shit.

    Home made baby food is as cheap as chips, super healthy and super easy. Babies dont eat much.

    Proper tasty grub for kids.


  • when I saw Meredith in the headline, I thought it was about Meredith Whittaker, not some skanky advertising company.

    A case of the pot calling the kettle black, surely.

    Poor Dotdash Meredith, face up to it, this is capitalism at its finest, Hand bags at dawn.

    They bought into google’s skanky advertising, hoping to earn million from advertising, more fool them. Caveat emptor! Greed makes idiots do stupid things.

    Not making enough money from 175 million monthly users, 60% of the US people, onto which they impose advertising to earn vast sums of money. Poor bastards!

    They talk like they are doing the pubic a favour by offering free articles in exchange for earning millions from advertising.

    I doubt very much if this will be of any benefit to the general public.

    Can’t see this getting off the ground with the current US government disabling antitrust enforcement.

    In the realms of capitalism, isnt all this just fair game in the free market.







  • We could send in the passports of our entire family by post.

    With the names and adresses of our children’s school’s and school teachers.

    you could then contact the teachers directly to confirm that the children are of age.

    Then, Go online and spread the “we have nothing to hide”, “we must protect our children” mantra.

    yep! thats sounds about right, for a one eyed, single celled mollusc, living under a nuclear radiated rock.

    LOL!

    To the legislators of Mississippi.

    one of my favourite songs: Tough shit wilson by Splodgenessabounds. great band

    Tough shit was born in Mississippi (orignially Tennessee*) He was deaf and dumb, he measured 4 foot 3 He had one arm, one leg, no teeth, and one plum He married a girl in 62, she was a 60 year old leper, called Mary Lou But she died of cancer on her anniversary

    [Chorus:] They call him toughshit, toughshit Wilson Toughshit, thoughshit was his name Toughshit was left with a baby son, who died on leukemia, at the age of one And toughshit was left with his guide doggy called roach Till one day crossing with his dog on a wee doach But roach didn’t see the coach approach And the wheels rolled gently over toughshits head

    I think a doach is a railway track, but Im not sure, its scottish. Who the fuck can understand those bastards.

    [Chorus:] They call him toughshit, toughshit Wilson And toughshit was his name They call him toughshit And toughshit was his claim to fame At tough shits funeral, no one came The vicar was late and it poured with rain They dropped the coffin down a flight of stairs But let us not forget toughshits pain And perhaps he never died in vein but when it comes to that Who fucking cares, not me I don’t See upcoming rock shows Get tickets for your favorite artists