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Cake day: July 1st, 2023

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  • As a psychology nerd:

    • the lack of understanding and empathy for others (even when their opinions are different or “wrong”

    • The lack of understanding of how behavior is driven and encouraged to change.

    • The comfort level with looking at something very complex and assuming you know it deeply in moments (referring to short form video “teaching” psychology and mental health stuff)

    • The overall disconnect between the physical medicine community and the psychological/mental health communities (i.e. mental health is a huge driver in cancer, autoimmune, and other diseases)

    • I could go on. Learning more is my passion but damn it’s so depressing when I begin to understand something and see the abounding ignorance on it






  • It’s a funny thing, once the whole “boundaries” thing starts to click it sort of becomes addicting as you slowly realize “oh, I can say no to things I don’t like” or “I can ask for the things I wish I had”.

    Eventually that leads to the secure attachment style (still working on this one myself). But since this began to “click” I have made 3 excellent friends that I don’t feel like I need to perform around and it’s wild to me.

    Are you autistic/neurodivergent by chance? I am, and I read a book called “Unmasking Autism” by Devon Price, PhD and it helped a lot with this for me. Not sure if it would mean anything to people who aren’t though.



  • I recommend mindfulness training if you can. There’s a big difference between:

    • “I’m a fuckup”
    • “I feel like a fuckup”
    • “I notice I feel like a fuckup”
    • “I see that I wanted to label myself as a fuckup”

    Brains and bodies will automatically attract to higher levels of comfort or peace, so you can start to see the trends in your mental health, it will literally pull you toward fixing it. It may not be a complete fix by itself, but you’ll be surprised how much it will do for you.

    You are not your illness. Would you feel empathy for a friend with anxiety? Likely yes. If you give them that grace, why not yourself too?

    I hope/am glad if this stuff helps.




  • Idk if this is valuable to you but it was to me so I’ll take a shot. This is about social anxiety but can apply to other types as well imo.

    I learned that my social anxiety was because I would not stick up for myself. Anxiety and “fight or flight” are physiologically the same thing, so my anxiety was my body freaking out that I may be abused in conversation with no way to defend myself.

    I spent years learning healthy boundaries and effective ways to handle conflict and confrontation and in my mid 30s I finally feel like I’m crawling out of the hole.

    It’s a little annoying the thing I was anxious about and avoiding (conflict, embarrassment, making a scene if necessary) was actually the thing keeping me anxious in the first place but I’m glad I’m back on the climb out now.

    I wish you luck in your journey, stranger.






  • I work in a computer shop and talk to regular computer users all day everyday.

    The average user might know what a browser is. Most don’t know that the Internet is outside of their computer.

    Real quotes like this happen everyday: “I just get on the green one to check my Google”. Translation: I check Gmail using the Edge browser.

    It took me 25 minutes the other day to explain what video chat was and that FaceTime is only one kind of it, and it’s only available on Apple devices, of which an HP laptop is not.

    Do not underestimate the computer illiteracy of the common person.