• marmo7ade@lemmy.world
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    1 year ago

    Reality dictates my emotions

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    Emotions dictate my reality

    You are the 2nd type and it’s an invalid belief system. You can’t change reality by believing it away. You are suppressing your emotions. That’s what you mean by “live in such a way that I don’t reach that point”. It’s suppression. You will boil over, eventually. The harder you suppress, the more explosive it will be when you finally break.

    Fact: HUMANS ARE SOCIAL CREATURES.

    We REQUIRE socialization. Everyone NEEDS someone to talk to. Eventually.

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      1 year ago

      I don’t think that is what they said. They reach out before hitting the breaking point which is a very mature thing to do ^^

    • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@midwest.social
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      Slow down, cousin. You’ve misread. Nobody here is arguing for suppressing emotions. What I’m saying is, I don’t have a support structure that’s reliable in crisis. The answer to that is reaching out to my unreliable support structure well in advance, to get the support I need when issues first arise. I can’t afford to bottle, because as you said, bottles explode, and I can’t survive that. Feelings gotta be processed as soon as possible, just in case the first attempt, or the second, or the third, don’t pan out.

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        I thought you were being pretty clear, but maybe because it reminds me of how I’m working through my own stuff. I used to suppress a lot of my emotions, thoughts, and feelings and just say whatever.

        Now I find it better to focus my time trying to talk to and help people. The intrusive thoughts come less than they used to. I notice a difference when they start coming on stronger and I make better choices instead of living in a bottle. I’ve been focusing on my health: exercise, nutrition, and sleep are 3 great pillars to build on.