I usually whisper, “I’ll flip every table in this joint if you don’t take my card, including the one with that child at it”, and while it has a 100% success rate, I can’t help but feel terrible about it, later. What are some alternatives?

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    11 months ago

    Years ago i was arguing with a friend’s boyfriend about paying. He said, “offer twice, then be gracious and say thank you.” That’s what i do now.

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      11 months ago

      That’s a good rule of thumb for a lot of things. Don’t drag it out. You’re both in the clear on both sides of the coin when you do this naturally.

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        11 months ago

        It’s just as rude not to accept a gift with grace as it is not to offer to help.

        You just insult someone when you refuse what they’re happy to give.