• IrateAnteater@sh.itjust.works
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    3 months ago

    Are we using “dudes” in the non-gendered sense? Because I’ve noticed this type of behavior with women far more often than with men.

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      3 months ago

      Probably based off of the societal expectation that men have to make the move.

      But yeah, you’re more than right with that. So many times, I’ve listened to lady friends tell they’ve got a crush on someone, and I tried to push them to make a move, because I’m dead certain that certain someone would explode from happiness, and they just look at me like I’m speaking Manganese.
      Like, not even that they’re lacking courage, just full on this assumption that they cannot do that, by law of nature.

      Well, with the difference that ladies have a higher chance that some dude will make a move, so even if they never make a move themselves, they have a much lower risk of staying alone.

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          3 months ago

          Yeah, pun intended. 🙃

          Although, I had literally just learned what manganese is before posting the comment above, and it sounded like the name of a language to me, so that’s how that pun came to be.

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              3 months ago

              Exactly, yes. I was hoping someone had seen that post, too, and would get a chuckle out of the reference. :)